V p\u00e1rov\u00fdch vztaz\u00edch p\u0159ich\u00e1z\u00ed po b\u00e1je\u010dn\u00e9m obdob\u00ed zamilovanosti a vz\u00e1jemn\u00e9ho nad\u0161en\u00ed doba, kdy jsme bolestn\u011b zklaman\u00ed t\u00edm, \u017ee n\u00e1m n\u00e1\u0161 partner nerozum\u00ed, kdy n\u00e1m p\u0159ipad\u00e1, \u017ee je jin\u00fd, ne\u017e jsme si mysleli. Neda\u0159\u00ed se n\u00e1m spolu mluvit o tom, co n\u00e1s tr\u00e1p\u00ed, opakuj\u00ed se h\u00e1dky nebo naopak obdob\u00ed ml\u010den\u00ed, kdy se c\u00edt\u00edme od sebe vzd\u00e1len\u00ed. Pokud partne\u0159i v\u00fdzvu t\u00e9to f\u00e1ze nep\u0159ekonaj\u00ed, mohou se dostat do situace, kdy je velmi tr\u00e1p\u00ed vz\u00e1jemn\u00e9 zra\u0148ov\u00e1n\u00ed, ale nev\u011bd\u00ed, co s t\u00edm. K naru\u0161en\u00ed stability p\u00e1rov\u00e9ho vztahu nej\u010dast\u011bji doch\u00e1z\u00ed v obdob\u00edch velk\u00fdch \u017eivotn\u00edch zm\u011bn, nap\u0159\u00edklad narozen\u00ed d\u00edt\u011bte. Nebo mohou p\u0159ij\u00edt neshody v sexu\u00e1ln\u00edm \u017eivot\u011b. M\u016f\u017eeme b\u00fdt \u0161okovan\u00ed, kdy\u017e zjist\u00edme nev\u011bru sv\u00e9ho partnera. Konfliktn\u00edm t\u00e9matem se mohou st\u00e1t ot\u00e1zky ohledn\u011b v\u00fdchovy d\u011bt\u00ed nebo t\u0159eba vztah s rodi\u010di partner\u016f. Jednoho dne si uv\u011bdom\u00edme, \u017ee n\u00e1s vztah ji\u017e nebav\u00ed, proto\u017ee ztratil svou \u017eivost a spontaneitu. Mezi partnery zkr\u00e1tka dojde z n\u011bjak\u00e9ho d\u016fvodu k odcizen\u00ed, tr\u00e1p\u00ed je, \u017ee nepoci\u0165uj\u00ed bl\u00edzkost a spojenectv\u00ed s nejd\u016fle\u017eit\u011bj\u0161\u00edm \u010dlov\u011bkem tak jako d\u0159\u00edve.<\/p>\n
P\u0159\u00edle\u017eitost nebo hrozba?<\/strong><\/p>\n Paradoxem je, \u017ee k prohlubov\u00e1n\u00ed p\u00e1rov\u00e9ho probl\u00e9mu p\u0159isp\u00edv\u00e1 to, co je vlastn\u011b pokusem o to situaci zlep\u0161it nebo nezhor\u0161ovat. To, co jeden partner vn\u00edm\u00e1 jako ohro\u017een\u00ed, m\u016f\u017ee \u010dasto b\u00fdt pokusem partnera o zlep\u0161en\u00ed sou\u017eit\u00ed ve vztahu. Proto\u017ee sv\u016fj vztah chceme chr\u00e1nit, vyh\u00fdb\u00e1me se komunikaci o konfliktn\u00edch t\u00e9matech, nevyjad\u0159ujeme, co n\u00e1m vad\u00ed, nepo\u017eadujeme z\u0159eteln\u011b to, co pot\u0159ebujeme. N\u00e1vazn\u011b pak m\u016f\u017eeme p\u0159i nahromad\u011bn\u00ed sv\u00e9 nespokojenosti \u201evybouchnout\u201c a d\u011blat v\u011bci, kter\u00e9 sami nechceme. Pokud se dlouhodob\u011bji p\u00e1ru neda\u0159\u00ed konflikt \u0159e\u0161it, snadno dojde k tomu, \u017ee partne\u0159i p\u0159estanou b\u00fdt schopni v\u016fbec spolu o sv\u00e9m vztahu mluvit, proto\u017ee se ob\u00e1vaj\u00ed dal\u0161\u00edch h\u00e1dek, zran\u011bn\u00ed a zklam\u00e1n\u00ed. Partne\u0159i se ocitli v krizi, kterou sami nedok\u00e1\u017e\u00ed p\u0159ekonat.<\/p>\n Co d\u011blat?<\/strong><\/p>\n \u0158e\u0161en\u00edm t\u011bchto obt\u00ed\u017e\u00ed se zab\u00fdv\u00e1 p\u00e1rov\u00e1 psychoterapie. Sm\u011b\u0159uje k tomu, aby p\u00e1r mohl op\u011bt spolu mluvit a prob\u00edrat d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e1 t\u00e9mata sv\u00e9ho sou\u017eit\u00ed. Z\u00e1rove\u0148 p\u0159isp\u00edv\u00e1 k obnoven\u00ed pocitu bl\u00edzkosti a d\u016fv\u011brnosti, kter\u00e1 se ze vztahu vytratila. N\u011bkdy v\u0161ak nen\u00ed c\u00edlem \u201ez\u00e1chrana\u201c vztahu, ale pomoc p\u0159i zvl\u00e1dnut\u00ed jeho rozpadu, \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed z\u00e1jm\u016f d\u011bt\u00ed v rozvodov\u00e9 situaci a podobn\u011b.<\/p>\n Co z\u00edsk\u00e1te?<\/strong><\/p>\n P\u0159i p\u00e1rov\u00e9 psychoterapii partne\u0159i s terapeutem spole\u010dn\u011b p\u0159em\u00fd\u0161l\u00ed o v\u011bcech, kter\u00e9 je tr\u00e1p\u00ed, aby jim v\u00edce porozum\u011bli. Jedin\u011b tak mohou naj\u00edt \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed sv\u00e9ho probl\u00e9mu a ud\u011blat p\u0159\u00edpadn\u011b svoji volbu. Terapeut zprost\u0159edkov\u00e1v\u00e1 vz\u00e1jemn\u00e9 porozum\u011bn\u00ed. Tak\u00e9 vytv\u00e1\u0159\u00ed bezpe\u010dn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed prostor pro vyj\u00e1d\u0159en\u00ed a zpracov\u00e1n\u00ed siln\u00fdch afekt\u016f, kter\u00e9 napjatou situaci p\u00e1ru mohou prov\u00e1zet.<\/p>\n M\u00edsto toho aby terapeut obt\u00ed\u017ee p\u00e1ru posuzoval, hodnotil nebo hledal vin\u00edka, sna\u017e\u00ed se s partnery jejich obt\u00ed\u017ee prozkoumat, aby si mohli l\u00e9pe uv\u011bdomit, co se mezi nimi d\u011bje. Dal\u0161\u00edm z\u00e1kladn\u00edm postojem terapeuta je nestrannost, terapeut pom\u00e1h\u00e1 v tom, aby se co nejv\u00edce zviditelnily skute\u010dn\u00e9 z\u00e1jmy obou partner\u016f. P\u0159edev\u0161\u00edm v\u0161ak spolu s klienty hled\u00e1 to, co pot\u0159ebuje jejich vztah, klientem je vlastn\u011b p\u00e1rov\u00fd vztah.<\/p>\n <\/strong> V\u00fdsledkem \u00fasp\u011b\u0161n\u00e9 p\u00e1rov\u00e9 psychoterapie je krom\u011b obnoven\u00ed komunikace a bl\u00edzkosti tak\u00e9 rozvoj dovednost\u00ed, kter\u00e9 umo\u017en\u00ed z\u00edsk\u00e1vat ve vztahu v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed uspokojen\u00ed. Partne\u0159i jasn\u011bji vn\u00edmaj\u00ed to, co se mezi nimi d\u011bje, mohou si st\u011b\u017eovat na to, co je ve vztahu tr\u00e1p\u00ed, zd\u00e1rn\u011bji \u0159e\u0161\u00ed konfliktn\u00ed situace a nal\u00e9zaj\u00ed \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed probl\u00e9m\u016f, kter\u00e9 se v \u017eivot\u011b rodiny vyskytnou.<\/p>\n Pr\u00e1ce s p\u00e1rem je pro \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed partnersk\u00fdch probl\u00e9m\u016f efektivn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed ne\u017e individu\u00e1ln\u00ed psychoterapie, proto\u017ee oba partne\u0159i obvykle p\u00e1rov\u00fd probl\u00e9m spoluvytv\u00e1\u0159ej\u00ed t\u00edm, jak na sebe reaguj\u00ed. To je viditeln\u00e9 z toho, \u017ee se p\u00e1ru n\u011bkter\u00e9 nep\u0159\u00edjemn\u00e9 situace znovu a znovu opakuj\u00ed. V pozad\u00ed takov\u00fdch tr\u00e1pen\u00ed jsou \u010dasto o\u010dek\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed a p\u0159edstavy, kter\u00e9 vypl\u00fdvaj\u00ed ze z\u00e1\u017eitk\u016f z vlastn\u00edch rodin nebo z dal\u0161\u00edch p\u0159edchoz\u00edch vztah\u016f. Aby p\u00e1rov\u00e1 psychoterapie tedy mohla prob\u00edhat, musej\u00ed o ni st\u00e1t oba.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Odhodlat se k tomu oslovit se sv\u00fdm tr\u00e1pen\u00edm terapeuta nemus\u00ed b\u00fdt snadn\u00e9. Mnoho p\u00e1r\u016f v\u0161ak na\u0161lo \u00falevu ve sv\u00e9m tr\u00e1pen\u00ed. I vy sv\u00e9mu vztahu m\u016f\u017eete d\u00e1t \u0161anci..<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" V p\u00e1rov\u00fdch vztaz\u00edch p\u0159ich\u00e1z\u00ed po b\u00e1je\u010dn\u00e9m obdob\u00ed zamilovanosti a vz\u00e1jemn\u00e9ho nad\u0161en\u00ed doba, kdy jsme bolestn\u011b zklaman\u00ed t\u00edm, \u017ee n\u00e1m n\u00e1\u0161 partner nerozum\u00ed, kdy n\u00e1m p\u0159ipad\u00e1, \u017ee je jin\u00fd, ne\u017e jsme si mysleli. Neda\u0159\u00ed se n\u00e1m spolu mluvit o tom, co n\u00e1s tr\u00e1p\u00ed, opakuj\u00ed se h\u00e1dky nebo naopak obdob\u00ed ml\u010den\u00ed, kdy se c\u00edt\u00edme od sebe vzd\u00e1len\u00ed. 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