Bl\u00ed\u017e\u00ed se V\u00e1noce, kdy b\u00fdv\u00e1me v rodin\u011b v\u00edce pohromad\u011b. Jsme r\u00e1di, kdy\u017e si m\u016f\u017eeme spole\u010dn\u011b s bl\u00edzk\u00fdmi u\u017e\u00edt p\u011bkn\u00e9 z\u00e1\u017eitky ve v\u00e1no\u010dn\u011b provon\u011bn\u00e9m domov\u011b nebo venku na sn\u011bhu. Je pro n\u00e1s p\u0159\u00edjemn\u00e9 za\u017e\u00edvat klidn\u00e9 chv\u00edle, kdy se c\u00edt\u00edme b\u00fdt k sob\u011b bl\u00edzko. Zvl\u00e1\u0161t\u011b o V\u00e1noc\u00edch si m\u016f\u017eeme uv\u011bdomovat, \u017ee harmonick\u00e9 a uspokojiv\u00e9 bl\u00edzk\u00e9 vztahy jsou pro n\u00e1s nejvy\u0161\u0161\u00ed hodnotou.<\/p>\n
Jak ale m\u016f\u017eeme b\u00fdt v na\u0161ich bl\u00edzk\u00fdch vztaz\u00edch spokojen\u00ed i p\u0159es to, \u017ee na sebe n\u011bkdy nar\u00e1\u017e\u00edme pro svoje odli\u0161nosti? Pro to, aby se n\u00e1m spolu \u017eilo dob\u0159e, i p\u0159es r\u016fzn\u00e9 neshody a konflikty, je nezbytn\u00e1 dob\u0159e funguj\u00edc\u00ed komunikace.<\/p>\n
Pro\u010d komunikace nefunguje?<\/strong><\/p>\n Opakovan\u00e9 nedorozum\u011bn\u00ed a konflikty mohou p\u0159er\u016fst a\u017e v nep\u0159\u00e1telsk\u00e9 postoje \u010di vz\u00e1jemnou \u201ealergii\u201c. Doch\u00e1z\u00ed k tomu tehdy, kdy\u017e j\u00e1 nebo m\u016fj partner sd\u011blujeme n\u011bco zp\u016fsobem, kter\u00fd neumo\u017en\u00ed, aby to druh\u00fd sly\u0161el a m\u00e9 sd\u011blen\u00ed p\u0159ijal. To se m\u016f\u017ee d\u00edt dv\u011bma z\u00e1kladn\u00edmi zp\u016fsoby. Bu\u010f je sd\u011blen\u00ed p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 nev\u00fdrazn\u00e9 \u2013 ml\u010den\u00ed, nep\u0159\u00edm\u00e1 vyj\u00e1d\u0159en\u00ed, nebo je projev p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 destruktivn\u00ed. \u201eTich\u00e1 dom\u00e1cnost\u201c je nap\u0159\u00edklad nep\u0159\u00edm\u00e9 sd\u011blen\u00ed, \u017ee se n\u011bkdo z n\u00e1s zlob\u00ed, ale nem\u016f\u017ee o tom v\u00edce mluvit. N\u011bkdy ml\u010dky o\u010dek\u00e1v\u00e1me, \u017ee druh\u00fd s\u00e1m pochop\u00ed, co n\u00e1m vad\u00ed a co m\u00e1 d\u011blat jinak. \u201e\u0158ev\u201c, \u201esc\u00e9ny\u201c nebo obvi\u0148ov\u00e1n\u00ed jsou zase p\u0159\u00edkladem destruktivn\u00edho sebevyj\u00e1d\u0159en\u00ed. V prvn\u00edm p\u0159\u00edpad\u011b je sd\u011blen\u00ed pro porozum\u011bn\u00ed p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 slab\u00e9 a nedostate\u010dn\u00e9. Ve druh\u00e9m p\u0159\u00edpad\u011b je projev druh\u00e9ho tak zra\u0148uj\u00edc\u00ed, \u017ee n\u00e1s vede k uzav\u0159en\u00ed se \u010di obran\u011b. Jindy n\u011bkdo vybuchuje nad v\u011bcmi, kv\u016fli kter\u00fdm n\u00e1m s\u00edla jeho zlosti nep\u0159ipad\u00e1 p\u0159im\u011b\u0159en\u00e1. To se d\u011bje tehdy, kdy\u017e si nem\u016f\u017ee st\u011b\u017eovat na skute\u010dn\u00fd hlavn\u00ed d\u016fvod sv\u00e9ho tr\u00e1pen\u00ed v na\u0161em vztahu. Ve v\u0161ech p\u0159\u00edpadech v\u0161ak sd\u011blen\u00ed k druh\u00e9mu nedoputuje tak, aby ho mohl pln\u011b vn\u00edmat, porozum\u011bt mu a p\u0159im\u011b\u0159en\u011b reagovat na to, co druh\u00fd skute\u010dn\u011b pot\u0159ebuje.<\/p>\n Kdy komunikace funguje? <\/strong><\/p>\n K ob\u011bma nefunk\u010dn\u00edm zp\u016fsob\u016fm komunikace doch\u00e1z\u00ed tehdy, kdy\u017e reagujeme afektivn\u011b, \u0159\u00edzeni okam\u017eit\u00fdmi pocity. V bl\u00edzk\u00fdch vztaz\u00edch se tomu nelze vyhnout. Ale aby to nevy\u00fastilo v nekone\u010dn\u00fd a st\u00e1le se zhor\u0161uj\u00edc\u00ed bludn\u00fd kruh, pot\u0159ebujeme v\u00edce vn\u00edmat, co se mezi n\u00e1mi d\u011bje, co c\u00edt\u00edme, co n\u00e1s zra\u0148uje, co ve vztahu pot\u0159ebujeme. Vytv\u00e1\u0159\u00edme si tak prostor pro p\u0159em\u00fd\u0161len\u00ed. To, co pak druh\u00e9mu \u0159\u00edk\u00e1me je v\u00edce v\u011bdom\u00e9 a z\u00e1rove\u0148 za to bereme plnou odpov\u011bdnost, proto\u017ee jsme p\u0159i tom nebyli uneseni okam\u017eit\u00fdmi pocity.<\/p>\n P\u0159ejeme si spolu mluvit tak, abychom si rozum\u011bli a c\u00edtili se p\u0159i tom co nejl\u00e9pe. Dob\u0159e funguj\u00edc\u00ed komunikace dos\u00e1hneme tehdy, kdy\u017e p\u0159\u00edmo a z\u0159eteln\u011b vyjad\u0159ujeme sv\u00e9 pocity, my\u0161lenky, n\u00e1zory \u010di po\u017eadavky.<\/strong> A z\u00e1rove\u0148 nedevalvujeme druh\u00e9ho. Proto v\u0161ak nejd\u0159\u00edve pot\u0159ebujeme b\u00fdt si v\u011bdomi sv\u00fdch pocit\u016f, p\u0159\u00e1n\u00ed, tu\u017eeb a pot\u0159eb, p\u0159ijmout je za sv\u00e9 a d\u00e1t si na n\u011b opr\u00e1vn\u011bn\u00ed. Pak se m\u016f\u017eeme voln\u011b vyjad\u0159ovat a t\u0159eba si i st\u011b\u017eovat na to, co n\u00e1s ve vztahu s druh\u00fdm tr\u00e1p\u00ed a kv\u016fli \u010demu se nec\u00edt\u00edme dob\u0159e. M\u016f\u017eeme pak i po druh\u00e9m n\u011bco po\u017eadovat bez toho, abychom ho napadali. Jasn\u00e1 a ne\u00fato\u010d\u00edc\u00ed komunikace umo\u017en\u00ed druh\u00e9mu, aby byl schopen n\u00e1m naslouchat. Kdy\u017e se vyjad\u0159ujeme p\u0159\u00edmo, za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1me se ve vztahu s druh\u00fdm nav\u00edc c\u00edtit l\u00e9pe. M\u00e1me dobr\u00fd pocit z toho, \u017ee jsme pln\u011b vyj\u00e1d\u0159ili, co jsme pot\u0159ebovali.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Bl\u00ed\u017e\u00ed se V\u00e1noce, kdy b\u00fdv\u00e1me v rodin\u011b v\u00edce pohromad\u011b. Jsme r\u00e1di, kdy\u017e si m\u016f\u017eeme spole\u010dn\u011b s bl\u00edzk\u00fdmi u\u017e\u00edt p\u011bkn\u00e9 z\u00e1\u017eitky ve v\u00e1no\u010dn\u011b provon\u011bn\u00e9m domov\u011b nebo venku na sn\u011bhu. Je pro n\u00e1s p\u0159\u00edjemn\u00e9 za\u017e\u00edvat klidn\u00e9 chv\u00edle, kdy se c\u00edt\u00edme b\u00fdt k sob\u011b bl\u00edzko. 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