Prvn\u00edm p\u0159edpokladem dob\u0159e funguj\u00edc\u00ed komunikace je to, \u017ee druh\u00e9mu vyj\u00e1d\u0159\u00edme p\u0159\u00edmo a z\u0159eteln\u011b sv\u00e9 stanovisko. Co ale je\u0161t\u011b d\u00e1le p\u0159isp\u00edv\u00e1 ke vz\u00e1jemn\u00e9mu porozum\u011bn\u00ed? Komunikaci m\u016f\u017eeme bu\u010f uzav\u00edrat nebo povzbuzovat, z\u00e1le\u017e\u00ed na druhu na\u0161ich reakc\u00ed na partnera.<\/p>\n
Reakce, kter\u00e9 p\u0159in\u00e1\u0161ej\u00ed neporozum\u011bn\u00ed<\/strong><\/p>\n Poj\u010fme se nejd\u0159\u00edve pod\u00edvat na to, co na\u0161i komunikaci m\u016f\u017ee znesnad\u0148ovat a kazit na\u0161e vztahy s druh\u00fdmi. Jsou to reakce, kter\u00e9 brzd\u00ed voln\u011b prob\u00edhaj\u00edc\u00ed kontakt mezi dv\u011bma lidmi. D\u011bl\u00e1me to tehdy, kdy\u017e druh\u00e9mu ub\u00edr\u00e1me pr\u00e1vo na to c\u00edtit, co skute\u010dn\u011b c\u00edt\u00ed. Nebo tak\u00e9 kdy\u017e\u00a0 druh\u00e9mu ukazujeme, \u017ee jeho probl\u00e9my jsou ned\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 nebo malichern\u00e9. I tehdy, kdy\u017e druh\u00e9mu d\u00e1v\u00e1me najevo, \u017ee nen\u00ed schopen sv\u00e9 probl\u00e9my \u0159e\u0161it a mus\u00edme mu \u0159\u00edci, co m\u00e1 d\u011blat.<\/p>\n Mo\u017en\u00e1 jste n\u011bkdy za\u017eili, \u017ee v\u00e1m n\u011bkdo rozmlouval va\u0161e pocity a d\u00e1val najevo, \u017ee nejsou v po\u0159\u00e1dku a \u017ee byste m\u011bli c\u00edtit n\u011bco jin\u00e9ho. Nebo jste vn\u00edmali, \u017ee slova druh\u00e9ho m\u00ed\u0159\u00ed k tomu, aby ve v\u00e1s vyvolaly pocit studu nebo viny. T\u0159eba v\u00e1m druh\u00fd vnucoval motivy va\u0161eho jedn\u00e1n\u00ed \u201cUd\u011blal jsi to, proto\u017ee…\u201c. Jin\u00fdm p\u0159\u00edkladem m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt to, kdy\u017e o n\u011b\u010dem vypr\u00e1v\u00edte a druh\u00fd n\u00e1hle zm\u011bn\u00ed t\u00e9ma hovoru. Mohou n\u00e1s tak\u00e9 zasko\u010dit nesouvisej\u00edc\u00ed v\u00fdroky: \u201eKdybys rad\u0161i…\u201c. Jindy zas druh\u00fd sice vyslechne n\u00e1\u0161 probl\u00e9m, ale reaguje pou\u010dov\u00e1n\u00edm nebo rychl\u00fdmi radami o kter\u00e9 v tu chv\u00edli t\u0159eba ani nestoj\u00edme, proto\u017ee jsme si jen p\u0159\u00e1li, aby n\u00e1s druh\u00fd pochopil.<\/p>\n Reakce napom\u00e1haj\u00edc\u00ed porozum\u011bn\u00ed<\/strong><\/p>\n K tomu, aby se n\u00e1\u0161 vztah s druh\u00fdm mohl rozv\u00edjet a na\u0161e komunikace byla \u00fasp\u011b\u0161n\u00e1, m\u016f\u017eeme vyu\u017e\u00edt naopak reakce, kter\u00fdmi podn\u011bcujeme druh\u00e9ho k tomu, aby se mohl otev\u0159en\u011b vyj\u00e1d\u0159it a abychom se od n\u011bj dozv\u011bd\u011bli v\u00edce.<\/p>\n D\u011bl\u00e1me to tehdy, kdy\u017e druh\u00e9mu vyjad\u0159ujeme svou otev\u0159enost k jeho pocit\u016f, n\u00e1zor\u016fm a my\u0161lenk\u00e1m, ponech\u00e1v\u00e1me mu pr\u00e1vo je m\u00edt a neodsuzujeme ho za n\u011b. D\u00e1v\u00e1me mu najevo, \u017ee jsme je pochopili. Rozhovor m\u016f\u017eeme podpo\u0159it p\u0159edev\u0161\u00edm aktivn\u00edm naslouch\u00e1n\u00edm \u2013 aktivn\u011b jsem v dialogu zapojen, zaj\u00edm\u00e1m se, pt\u00e1m se a sv\u00fdmi ot\u00e1zkami podn\u011bcuji druh\u00e9ho k dal\u0161\u00edmu hovoru.<\/p>\n To, \u017ee druh\u00e9mu pozorn\u011b naslouch\u00e1m, vyjad\u0159uji i mimoslovn\u011b, o\u010dn\u00edm kontaktem, p\u0159ik\u00fdvnut\u00edm, \u00fasm\u011bvem a podobn\u011b. Pochopen\u00ed m\u016f\u017eeme vyj\u00e1d\u0159it tak, \u017ee \u0159ekneme vlastn\u00edmi slovy, co jsme sly\u0161eli a jak tomu rozum\u00edme. P\u0159\u00edpadn\u011b si ov\u011b\u0159ujeme, zda jsme druh\u00e9mu porozum\u011bli spr\u00e1vn\u011b. Pocit druh\u00e9ho, \u017ee mu rozum\u00edme, prohloub\u00ed to, kdy\u017e tak\u00e9 vyslov\u00edme, co n\u00e1m p\u0159ipad\u00e1, \u017ee druh\u00fd pro\u017e\u00edv\u00e1. Tak\u00e9 m\u016f\u017eeme \u0159\u00edci, jak\u00e9 pocity v n\u00e1s vyvol\u00e1v\u00e1 to, co n\u00e1m druh\u00fd \u0159\u00edk\u00e1.<\/p>\n Vyjad\u0159ujeme to, co se naz\u00fdv\u00e1 slovem empatie – mluv\u00edme o tom, co si mysl\u00edme, \u017ee c\u00edt\u00ed druh\u00fd, ne o tom, co pot\u0159ebujeme my. Tak, jak to zazn\u00edv\u00e1 v indi\u00e1nsk\u00e9m p\u0159\u00edslov\u00ed: \u201eNeposuzuj druh\u00e9ho, pokud jsi nechodil t\u0159i dny v jeho mokas\u00ednech.\u201c<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Prvn\u00edm p\u0159edpokladem dob\u0159e funguj\u00edc\u00ed komunikace je to, \u017ee druh\u00e9mu vyj\u00e1d\u0159\u00edme p\u0159\u00edmo a z\u0159eteln\u011b sv\u00e9 stanovisko. Co ale je\u0161t\u011b d\u00e1le p\u0159isp\u00edv\u00e1 ke vz\u00e1jemn\u00e9mu porozum\u011bn\u00ed? Komunikaci m\u016f\u017eeme bu\u010f uzav\u00edrat nebo povzbuzovat, z\u00e1le\u017e\u00ed na druhu na\u0161ich reakc\u00ed na partnera. 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